Most of us are quite seasoned in the online dating world.
Regardless of which site (or sites) you’re on, you deal with the same types of issues. So what is appropriate and what isn’t when you’re first chatting online?
You know absolutely nothing about them or their lifestyle. Setting your boundaries means that you don’t give out personal identifiable information about you.
You can give a general idea about where you live (for example, you live in the city center).
You can give a general idea about where you work and what you do, but don’t be specific about which office building you’re in. It really depends how comfortable you are with the idea of a stranger having your number (and yes they are a stranger).
Give a general idea about your hangouts, but not details such as “every Tuesday I take a spinning class at X gym on X street”. I personally do not give my number out anymore unless there has been a first date and there is a potential for a second date.
Don’t give your social media accounts out or anything that can trace them back to you. What do you do if they give you their number and ask you to call them or text them? I will admit I used to, but I just don’t feel comfortable doing it because I’ve had some weirdos I didn’t want to talk to keep texting and calling even after months of not talking.
To me, my number is for those I want to interact with and don’t mind continuing to interact with.
That’s why I like apps like BBM or other similar ones …
you just add them without having to give your number and can chat.
Also, with most of the online dating sites having apps, just chatting on the apps works great too.
If things don’t work out, you can just delete them and problem solved. Each and every person has their own personal boundaries and you know what yours are, just be cautious and both women and men should remember that their safety and privacy comes first.
Many people give their personal information and numbers out freely and I think that’s a mistake.