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On to today’s question, which is about how you seek a romantic relationship when you are insecure about some aspects of yourself. I found my way here after reading this series on depression: That made me realize how depressed I’ve been, and around my birthday a few months ago I decided to do something about it.
Part of my problem is I haven’t been in a relationship in many years.
So I signed up for some online dating, but it’s been tough.
Once I found your blog I took a couple weeks to read through your old questions, some of them were very relevant to my issues.https://captainawkward.com/2011/08/22/guest-post-how-do-i-stop-letting-my-terrible-self-esteem-sabotage-my-relationships-reader-question-99/ (comment: “Sure, they notice if you are sloppy, or not practicing basic hygiene and grooming…”)https://captainawkward.com/2011/06/28/reader-question-67-my-wonderful-boyfriend-has-horrible-hygiene-and-a-disgusting-house-how-do-i-talk-to-him-about-it/ (one comment stuck out: “Poor dental hygiene to me is a total, permanent deal-breaker.”)About me: I’m a hetero male, nearing 40 years old.
Mentally and socially I’m a mess, but I’d go way over 500 words if I tried to describe it all. I’m tall, not overweight, somewhat fit but not too obsessed about it, full head of hair (graying but that’s OK), and…horrible teeth.
It’s embarrassing to talk about, but these last few months of trying online dating have kind of broken through my shyness.
Years of neglect while playing video games and being lazy have screwed me up.
I hate myself for letting it get like this, because now I feel as if I’m not able to get a date.