My last blog on top dating mistakes women make caused an uproar among male readers who complained my advice encouraged women to “play games.” Not a huge surprise, since the most common dating blunders are a boon to lazy men looking for casual flings.But a bit ironic, given that MEN themselves are masters of game playing in relationships.In fact, the tough love coaching I give my clients is aimed at protecting women from falling victim to such games. I’m sure female readers could cite hundreds of examples.
This is where he pretends to care about you more than he actually does at the beginning in order to get you into bed.
As women we crave emotional intimacy, so it’s not difficult for a man to combine earnest questions and over-the-top compliments to create the illusion of trust and connection that usually precedes sexual intimacy.
The game is a blast for both parties involved – until a woman finds herself wondering why the man who was “crazy for her” and “couldn’t get enough of her” has poofed after a few rolls in the hay.
authors Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider recommend: "Don’t see him more than once or twice a week for the first month or two." They also suggest not inviting him back to your place for the first few dates, and holding off on sex until you’re confident he’ll stick around.
Sure, a guy who’s just looking to get laid won’t put up with such “games from women.” In other words, you’ll weed out those who want only one thing.2) The “spontaneity” game.
At worst, this is when men try to pass off “booty calls” as spontaneous gestures of missing you and needing you.
At best, it’s just laziness, lack of organization, or taking a woman’s time and schedule for granted.
Either way, it doesn’t really make a gal feel special or respected when a man calls right before he wants to see her.
Girl’s Game Changer: Ladies, if you would prefer that the men in your lives gave you more advance notice when asking you out, then STOP accepting last minute invitations!
Why not just tell him you prefer to be asked out in advance?
You know, ‘cuz it’s all about communicating and being honest?